When I was in my teens.. I used to resent my own Mum for being a nagger .. nag me to sleep early, have my meals at home .. yadda yadda such that our relations were not that good because I was not appreciative.
As a Mother myself.. I realise its a natural instinct to Nag. Now, I'm nagging at my son!
As I walk him to school every morning, I will repeat the same sentences like
"You must listen to your teacher, cannot cry, cannot anyhow run"
"Teacher ask you to sleep, you must sleep, time to eat, must eat, time to bath, must bath"
"If you wanna pee/poo, raise your hand and inform your Teacher"
Comes bed time, I repeat the same mantra to him. Dillion will nod his head all the time.
Now he does not know how to talk back.. I shudder to think once he gets older, he will be so irritated by me.
For info:
Consequences... Stop nagging!
Kid forgets his umbrella, comes home wet. Kid has learned something from the experience, next day your kid is more likely to say "I better take my umbrella to school today". If your kid doesn't, guess what? He's going to get wet again!
When we use too much of control we don't allow them to make their own mistakes and learn from them, the way we do. Forgot your homework? Teacher will provide consequences!
You have provided a gentle reminder, a clean space for working, a reminder board etc so you've set your child up to succeed. If unsure about nagging? Just think, if I don't nag her about (whatever) what will she/he learn from this?
I hope you enjoy these tips and let me know if any of you found it useful or would like to add some alternatives!
Skippy who dislikes bruises on the outside and the inside!! Yeah to alternatives, roll them out !!
2 comments:
thanks for sharing. i agreed!
i recently watched a tv programme. once you decided to send your childcare, parents should "let go" of how they adapt in childcare. They need to learn on their own. :)
cass
you are so right. just let the teacher there take over!
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